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Thursday, 27 December 2012

Just Keep The Change

Posted: 26 Dec 2012 11:45 AM PST

For Just Keep The Change, 2012 has been a crazy year. Both readership and engagement have increased more than I could dream of and my passion for this project has never been greater.

As you may have noticed, the site has also been given a complete make-over. I have always wanted to make the reading experience of JKTC as pleasing as possible, and I feel like this iteration is a huge step closer to that goal.

But please do let me know what you think – we’re still tweaking some things to find the ideal balance.

To get back on track, here is my list of the top blog posts from JKTC of all time. The list is based on the popularity of the articles as well as the quality. Enjoy!

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#10 Be a Great Kisser – How To REALLY Kiss a Girl

perfectKiss When you kiss, two souls connect on a very deep level. You're extremely vulnerable when you kiss. And this is a guide on how to REALLY kiss a girl – including a bulletproof technique as well as 5 timeless tips. Also don’t miss 5 Tips on Kissing Passionately from 5 Women.

Read “Be a Great Kisser – How To REALLY Kiss a Girl”

#9 Why You Can't Be Friends with Your Ex after the Break Up – And the No Contact Rule

cantBeFriends “You could write a PhD dissertation about the no contact rule and getting over a girl. This, however, is designed to be a quick read that hopefully will give men (read: you!) a fast-acting shot of empathy and momentary strength from realizing that what they are experiencing is something experienced by mankind as a collective and therefore not insurmountable.”

Read “Why You Can't Be Friends with Your Ex after the Break Up – And the No Contact Rule”

#8 Do You Make This Crucial Mistake When Calling a Girl for the First Time?

crucialMistake “Have you ever wondered at what point you should call a girl after getting her number? Call too soon and you will be seen as desperate and needy,
call too late and she will have lost interest, or forgot you.”

Read “Do You Make This Crucial Mistake When Calling a Girl for the First Time?”

#7 Dealing With Her Tests – How to Gain Instant Attraction

testing “A woman will always test you. She will test you for your masculinity, she will test for your strength; she will test to see if you're (still) the man she's seeks and craves.

Testing men is a woman's secret tool. She wants you to pass the tests, but she will make it as difficult for you as she can.”

Read “Dealing With Her Tests – How to Gain Instant Attraction”

#6 12 Effective (and Slightly Badass) Ways to be the Sexiest Guy in the Room

sexiestGuy “Who wouldn't love to be the guy that every girl stares after? You don't have to look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney to be attractive in women's eyes, although it would help, it isn't necessary. You just have to have a certain attitude to life; that's all.

In this post I'm going to give you 12 Effective (and Slightly Badass) Ways to be the Sexiest Guy in the Room.”

Read “12 Effective (and Slightly Badass) Ways to be the Sexiest Guy in the Room”

#5 How to Make Your Future Girlfriend Like You for Who You Are (And Where to Meet Her!)

futureGF “This post answers the question "I don't have a problem getting dates with girls, but I have a problem getting them to stick around and keeping them interested. How do I keep them intrigued, and how do I get it to go as far as to evolve into a relationship?"”

Read “How to Make Your Future Girlfriend Like You for Who You Are (And Where to Meet Her!)”

#4 How to Get a Fantastic Girlfriend

“In my experience, what guys ultimately want when it comes to dating is a fantastic girlfriend. Sure, some guys enjoy dating a lot of different women, having several casual relationship etc., but what the majority wants is actually a girl who likes them for who they are, who they can hang out with and have fun indefinitely and who turns them on and makes them want to be better men.”

Read “How to Get a Fantastic Girlfriend”

#3 Why Bad Boys Get All the Hot Women, and Nice Guys Don't Even Come Close

badboy “A bad boy is sexy. There's something about that sly smile; that look in his eyes. He just turns women on wherever he looks.

He moves like an alpha male in the animal kingdom: Relaxed and confident. Almost too relaxed. Almost too confident.”

This post is about striking the balance between the bad boy and the nice guy and become the perfect lover. And who wouldn’t want to be that?

Read “Why Bad Boys Get All the Hot Women, and Nice Guys Don't Even Come Close”

#2 How to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend

getOverEx The post that started the avalanche. If you have a few days to spare, try to get through all the comments!

Kidding aside, there are some very valuable lessons in the discussion.

Read “How to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend”

#1 The 12 Undeniable Rules of Successful Dating

rulesOfDating #1 is also a list post. But a very good one. The 12 rules covers both internal things (like learning to accept and move on), external things (like knowing how to move and how to kiss) and the things that fall in between – honesty, for example.

This post is a very good place to start your journey around Just Keep The Change – or to be read as a refresher and a reminder from time to time. I myself read it every few months and check up on how I am doing. Very recommended!

Read “The 12 Undeniable Rules of Successful Dating”

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That’s it everybody.

Have a great New Year’s eve (perhaps check out the post “How to Have Someone to Kiss on New Year's Eve”!), take care of yourselves and have an AMAZING year 2013!

Monday, 10 December 2012

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Just Keep The Change

The “get over your ex girlfriend” email course is now open!

Posted: 09 Dec 2012 07:39 AM PST

New course on getting over your ex girlfriend

I have been working on an email course for the past few weeks for the guys out there who are having a hard time getting over their ex girlfriends.

In short, it’s a easy-to-follow system on getting over your ex. It consists of both guides on the most common and pressing problems related to break ups as well as success stories highlighting how some of my students have gotten over their ex’s – as well as what to avoid doing.

If you would like to finally get this part of your life handled, don’t hesitate to use either the form in the sidebar to the right or the form below this post.

Simply enter your email address and you will get the first lesson (out of 21 – so far) immediately.

I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty excited about this. And did I mention that it’s free?

See you there,
Alex

Friday, 30 November 2012

Just Keep The Change

The Most Underrated Way to Do Anything Is…

Posted: 30 Nov 2012 04:25 AM PST

The spiritual benefits of walking…

The Most Underrated Way to Do Anything Is… To walk.
Without a doubt.

I have taken some of the most difficult and important decisions in my life while walking.
I have fallen in love while walking.
Thrown away the day-to-day stress while walking.
Reached the stillness and peace needed for self-discovery and deep creativity while walking.
Reviewed whether or not I am where I want to be in my life – and what to do if I am not – while walking.
And gotten over lost love while walking.

There are countless benefits to walking.

What’s yours?

Saturday, 10 November 2012

Just Keep The Change

How to Keep Your Girlfriend from Ever Leaving You

Posted: 10 Nov 2012 03:22 AM PST

How to make sure that your girlfriend NEVER wants to leave you

How to make your girlfriend choose you over anything and never ever leave you… I’ll admit it. That’s a pretty bold claim. But nonetheless, it is what today’s article is going to teach you.

This is a subject on which there could be written so much that it could fill a whole library of books… And there has. But that’s NOT what I want to do today.

Dating “experts” often make it too darn complicated. It really doesn’t have to be rocket science to get a great girl and keep her.

Because that is what you want, right?

How to guarantee that she won’t ever leave you…

The only way to guarantee that your girlfriend won’t ever leave you is to give her exactly what she looks for in a man. If you’re able to do that, she will never have the need to try anything else.

This will of course be different for every girl on the planet, but in my experience, there are…

Four things that every woman on earth are looking for:

1. Excitement

This is numero uno baby. No excitement, no fun, no sexiness, no humor = No relationship, señor!

If you aren’t fun to be around, she isn’t going to stick around. It’s as simple as that.

So, keep a sly smile. Be witty. Joke around. Don’t be too concerned about what people think about you. Be a little reckless. Be sexy. Do something out of the ordinary. surprise her.

And most important of all: Be present!

2. Stability & trust

Stability and trust without excitement equals boredom, but if you mix the two, you have a very potent combination.

When you add the stability component to your relationship, you lay some very serious building blocks.

Before she can trust you, you have to do everything in your power to keep your word every single time. No excuses and no exceptions. Stability comes naturally when you do this over time.

This is the long-term one. The “meet the parents” one. And the one that makes everything else so much better.

3. Understanding & acceptance

She has to feel loved and accepted.

If you don’t understand her and accept her completely, your relationship will never be as deep or fulfilling as it can possibly be.

You have to love every single thing about her. From her toes to the top of her head and everything over, under and in-between.

4. Responsibility & honesty

You have to be able to take responsibility for your own life. Having a direction and having the courage to act on it is alpha-omega for long-term love.

It all boils down to your self-worth. If you have a problem but choose not to fix it (i.e. you need to lose a few pounds, but grab the chips instead) she won’t ever be able to trust you completely.

And before she can be the women that makes you want to be a good man, she needs to feel secure with you. She needs to trust you. But she only trusts you when you trust yourself. That’s where it starts.

Honesty is just as important, and none of all this advice can work if you are unable to be open to her. If you can’t be honest, she won’t be, either, and it’s never going to work.

Conclusion

Do you see how these four traits go together and strengthen each other?

When you accept her more, she will be more open for excitement, which will lead to the trust in the relationship increasing, which will lead to you taking more responsibility because you feel more masculine and because your confidence grows… And the list goes on.

When these four things are in place, she won’t have a choice but to fall in love with you and stay in love with you.

If you can do all this for your girlfriend, she will never get the idea to even think about trying greener pastures… Because yours will be as green as it gets.

Here’s a longer article explaining a lot of the concepts in further detail: “The 12 Undeniable Rules of Successful Dating”… You may also want to check out the article “How to Get a Fantastic Girlfriend”.

Saturday, 3 November 2012

celebregion.com

Leonardo DiCaprio and Girlfriend Erin Heatherton Break Up

Posted: 03 Nov 2012 02:21 AM PDT

Leonardo (R),Erin (L)

Leonardo Dicaprio and Erin Heatherton have broken up.The titanic/ inception star and the supermodel are going their seperate ways after spending ten months together.

Leonardo 37, and Erin 23 went public with their romance december 2011,a few months after he ended his relationship with blake lively ."They split a few weeks ago,". "There's no bad blood , they still care about each other a lot." a source close to the couple tells Us Weekly Magazine.

Friday, 26 October 2012

Just Keep The Change

What to Do When Your Girlfriend Wants to Be Single… But Wants You, Too

Posted: 26 Oct 2012 04:44 AM PDT

What do you when your girlfriend tells you that she misses the feeling of being single... And wants to break up because of it?

Two days ago, I received a devastating email from a guy named Lamar outlining his relationship’s current situation. He had been with his girlfriend since they were 16, but now that they are into their young twenties, she has expressed a want for being single again.

Sad thing is that Lamar doesn’t feel the same way – he thinks that she’s the one, and that he isn’t missing anything by being with her. Quite the opposite, actually. He thinks that if he were to be single, he would immediately search for a relationship such as the one he already has.

But she’s confused. She wants to be single and live free for a while. But she doesn’t want to lose Lamar.

And that’s the basis for today’s post – what to do when your girlfriend wants to be single… But wants you, too.

She wants to live the single life

It's a very common scenario for couples who have been together from a very young age… At some point, she misses the feeling of being free and being single. She feels desperate. She feels that her life is flying right past her.

So she takes action.

She breaks up with you. And you're devastated. Your high-school sweetheart wants to "experience life fully" –without you.

But… She still wants you.

She probably still calls you once in a while. Perhaps you even meet up. You miss her like hell. And she misses you, too.

But she can't decide. She still doesn't want to miss out. But she still wants the love and stability that you have provided her for so long.

What to do

The thing that I ALWAYS want you to do is to be REALLY sure of what you want before you ever do anything. If you don't know what you want, you can't get it. Simple as that.

Without knowing where you want to go, you'll fumble in the dark until you figure it out.

I can't talk for everybody, but I can say that the most wanted thing is to be happy. And in this example, that would include her to be happy, too. So let's use this for our case for simplicity's sake.

You want you both to be happy. As she clearly isn't happy right now, something needs to change. Her reaction is to break up to feel free.

Kind of radical, but radical is what you do when you're desperate.

Anyway, your first reaction is most likely to be hurt. Why aren't you suddenly not good enough anymore?

…Howdy sailor, let us take a step back!

Even though I advocate feeling hurt when you're hurt and experiencing it fully and honestly… I don't think that you NEED to feel hurt in this situation. And do you know why?

Because it isn't your fault!

It really isn't. If she feels "left out", you really didn't have much to do with it. Sure, you always play a small part, but usually it is extremely small. Therefore, you really don't need to blame yourself.

Instead of feeling hurt, I really recommend that you look at the situation a little less emotionally.

She needs you. But she wants something else. Preferably at the same time.

In other words, she is confused like hell. She has NO IDEA what she is doing…

Because of this, and because she is a woman, she needs you to give her some kind of direction.

And because of this… It is ULTRA-important that you are the rock in all this.

Being a rock means two things:

Knowing what you want
And taking action on it

Both without any direct emotion. Cool like a rock.

What that means for you…

It means that if you found out that you want you both to be happy, you give her that space.

You tell her:

"Baby, I'm really sorry that I can't give you everything you need. So I let you go. Do what you need to do to feel happy. Party. Date around. Live wild. If you haven't ever done it, now is the time. But you need to know this: You can't have me at the same time. It's either or. And I completely understand the need you have to be free, and because of that, I actually think that it's best that we take some time apart."

This will probably make her even more confused than she was before. But at least know she knows where YOU stand – now she just needs to figure out where SHE stands.

And that's where you tell her:

"But I really love you, and I have always envisioned a future with you and me together. And that's why I hope that you will see the same thing as me one day where the freedom doesn't feel so appealing anymore. Let's talk again when you have made your decision – I just want you to be happy."

This way, she knows that you'll still be there. And I think that you should be. If you truly love her, you should give her the chance to taste the apple if she never has. Because if she has that desire, she will always want to do it, even if you won't "allow" her to do it now.

Doing like this is risky, but to me, it's the best way to handle her wanting or needing freedom. You have to give her the chance. Encourage her, even. If you don't, she may get the same urge in five years' time, and the mess will be relatively bigger.

So do it with love. Do it with respect. And she will love you and respect you for it – no matter what her final decision is.

And chance is, she tries out the freedom thing for a few days. Perhaps she goes on a date. And it feels horrible to her.

You'll then laugh about her silliness a week later over a cozy dinner like you used to do. And her need to act out and be free will be gone forever.

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Tomorrow, I'll publish part two titled "How to make your girlfriend choose you over anything and never ever leave you" which will be about how to make sure that she will never want to try anything else than being with you.

The next step…

If you haven’t yet checked out “The Ex-Girlfriend Solution”, now is the time. If you have ANY troubles with your ex-girlfriend, chances are that you will find that magic bullet that you so desperately need in the ebook.

And if you don’t, you’ll get every cent back with the 90 day 100% satisfaction guarantee. Go find that magic bullet now!

Tuesday, 25 September 2012

Just Keep The Change

Are You Making This Common Mistake When Trying to Get Your Ex Back?

Posted: 24 Sep 2012 05:25 AM PDT

Get your ex-girlfriend back the stress-free way

Have you ever been in this situation: You want your ex to “forgive everything” and “take you back”, all at once?…

If you have, this little nugget of wisdom may prove to be a huge “Aha!” moment.

Going too far, too fast

What I see all the time is both guys and girls trying to get back together with their ex’s – and in that itself, I don’t see a problem. The problem only arises when these guys and girls try to get too far too fast.

See, often they try to get their ex to “give them a new chance” or “to patch everything up” ALL AT ONCE…

When in fact they should take much smaller steps instead.

Getting back together is big business for both of you, and depending on the break-up, it might not be easy. But it does not have to be difficult, either.

You just have to be patient!

Even though you feel ready, you can’t take for granted that your ex feels the same way.

You have to give him or her time and YOU HAVE TO take baby steps to get to where you want to go!

So instead of taking that huge talk of moving back in the apartment and going to back square one or wherever you left off, why don’t you just go for a walk instead and talk about the things that you used to talk about?

Don’t make it feel forced

You don’t have to act like you’re still a couple in the sense of touch and romance, but keep the same tone and level of banter that you used to.

The gist of getting your ex back as I see it is to act like you’re still in a relationship… Without ever mentioning that you’re acting this way or talking about the fact that you’re actually not together anymore.

Make the relationship feel real

Only when the “relationship” feels real in your ex’s head again can you begin to talk more openly about “getting back together”… Because only then will it feel natural and not forced…

So instead of getting back together, why don’t you grab a coffee with her? With no strings attached. The less it feels like a “proper date”, the better. Think more about it like two friends getting together talking about everything and nothing – like friends usually do. “Fun” and “without stress” are the keywords here.

Let her come to you

Let her come to you instead of chasing her. Take it slow and take it one step at a time. Only then will you succeed as well as plant the seed for the relationship to flourish in the future.

This is only a teaser of what I have of tips and tricks for you to get back together with your ex. Let me know in the comments what you think!

Monday, 24 September 2012

Are You Fall-ing For It?

Are You Fall-ing For It?

Fall officially arrived last Saturday. Here in Southern California, the season brings shorter days and slightly cooler temperatures but no dramatic change. To create the illusion of a Midwestern autumn, I exchanged the beach-themed covers on my sofa pillows for covers with Halloween themes, replaced the seashells in my “exhibit” lamp with pinecones, acorns and seed pods, and arranged gourds and squash on the mantle. I’m going back to my home in Missouri for my son’s wedding in a couple weeks. Like many of you, I’ll need to clean the gutters, winterize the outside faucets, check the weatherstripping on the doors and windows, reverse the ceiling fans and change the batteries in the smoke detectors. Hmmm. Maybe I should stay an extra day? -Jerri Farris

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