THE WIKI COMMUNITY

Friday, 1 October 2010

How To Disagree In A Dating Relationship

By Dicky Rejaka

Quarrels and fights are necessary to keep a mature relationship healthier. Every other couple once in a while indulges in quarrels. If someone has never fought with his spouse then he has surely missed one interesting aspect of his so called mature relationship. Fights followed by a few persuasion and various means of inducement hold a unique importance for a relationship. Many a times such small fights lead to petty clashes which later gets brushed off by the couple and other times it is usually justified to arrive at a common consensus. In these instances it's better to simply agree to disagree. This is what's expected out of a mature relationship even if there arises some difference in the ideas.

The clashing of ideas for a couple is not something very uncommon. It certainly cannot be that one be the mirror image of his spouse when talking about ideas or opinions. Everyone has got their own identity and uniqueness, the freedom of thought varies individually. No matter whether the concerned persons are already in a mature relationship; arguments will almost certainly happen if you find a difference in opinion over a particular subject.

It's a misconception of the people which makes them believe that couples involved in a mature relationship should never have any disagreements at all. A young couple feels their romantic relation is to last forever, so they are caught off guarded upon facing any situations like minor fights or heated arguments. In turn both the spouses hide their own opinions to prevent any kind altercation. They might be right in their own personal ways but fit if theirs is often a mature relationship, will it get affected by any argument or disagreement.

A difference of opinion or any minor altercation is needed for a good and mature relationship as it facilitates the couple to become accustomed to the opinions and behaviors of their partners. But it should also be taken into account that the disagreements should be taken with a positive mindset, it shouldn't offend your partner nor should you feel offended for the opposition. Don't need to be silent when you feel you do have a different opinion with your partner; you can surely just acknowledge what your thoughts are. A minor disagreement followed by a logical discussion and finally dismissing the differences is the sign of a mature relationship.

Nevertheless, do not start fighting with your partner just to term it as a mature relationship should you have genuinely nothing to complain and you share the same opinions with your partner. Learning to have healthy disagreements will allow your mature dating relationship to venture to new levels. It's when the disagreement escalates into a harmful fight that it's not good. Keep things non-emotional and allow one another to voice their opinion and feelings. You would rather the honesty of this sort of relationship than the deceit of anything else. Mature dating relationship is built on two people who discover how to fight well.

About the Author:

No comments:

Post a Comment